I watch for the shower scene

Posted by Mel on Jun 13, 2008 in EX-ploitation | 4 comments

I had another brief relapse into Boyfriends of Mel’s Past today:

He was a long-distance guy, so when I would make the four-hour trip to see him after a long work week, he had a bath ready for me when I arrived. GOSH, I loved that tub! While I don’t think either one of us was exceptionally romantic, and I’m not particular to taking baths, this was something just so sweet. Of course, he would join me in the tub, and we would sit in there for hours, deciding on the night’s plans. We would have just as much fun staying in as we would hitting the town.

I had another boyfriend that was seriously uptight when it came to bathroom time. So much that he would actually lock the door when getting ready. It was something that annoyed me, but I never mentioned. I have some perverse thing about talking to people while they’re showering and getting ready.

Now, when Long Distance BF would be showering for our date nights (in his FABULOUS glassed-in shower stall), we would both be in the bathroom talking, laughing… and yes, some times I would join him. And no, it was not always sexual… but gosh, it was fun and uninhibited. I guess now I realized how much I missed that, even though it was years ago. Is that something stupid to miss in a relationship? Or does it speak louder volumes about a guy’s personality?

I’m thinking about this because I suppose you do that after relationships end. You figure out what you will miss about a person, what you refuse to put up with again… and affectionately, compare all those guys’ fantastic and not-so-fantastic qualities. Obviously, it goes much deeper than just how somebody showers.

I’m weeding through a lot of red flags that were raised throughout my most recent relationship (yes, I kept a private offline journal), that I obviously ignored. Another female lesson:trust your intuition.

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http://tarathefoodie.blogspot.com TaratheFoodie

I think you just miss the closeness that comes from being in a relationship. I like how you mentioned that even when you joined him in the shower, it wasn’t always sexual. Sometimes it has nothing to do with sex, but having fun and being close to one another. A couple kisses and a lot of laughing is sometimes all you need. I talk to Mark when he’s in the shower sometimes. I call it “keeping him company”. I just like it because he’s usually in a goofy mood when he’s in the shower and we’ll start talking about nonsense and singing bad 80s songs while he’s finishing his shower. You know, that “if someone were watching us right now they’d think we were a couple of retards” kind of stuff – that’s the good stuff right there.
http://pursuitofyourboyfriend.com mel

TARA! You hit it exactly right on the head.
It was always goofy, silly… and fun. ALL THE TIME.

That’s what I realized I need back in my life — something that is not so much work.
http://livingwiththeboyfriend.blogspot.com Allison M.

Your last line is so freaking true. But, for some odd reason we think things will change. Why again? I wonder if guys see the same red flags as we do.
http://www.addictedtovinyl.com Matt

We absolutely see the red flags.

The line that hits me with this one is “what you refuse to put up with again.”

I found that with my most recent relationship. I was happy, but when I was no longer in the relationship, I had that list, and also a list of compromises – things that I was no longer willing to compromise on in future relationships.

I’m all about the good, and it would be so cool to bypass all of the drama that seems to come with the good sometimes

Love your stuff.